During breakfast this morning, some fragments of lyrics I wrote 25 years ago popped into my head. The words were from one of my brother’s favorites, yet I haven’t played that song in at least two decades. I can’t even remember all the words anymore. So, I expect I will be out in the shed in the near future digging into some of those boxes from long ago. This one isn’t going to let go anytime soon, that’s for sure.
In the bleak hours before the dawn,
With the words that burn and ache within your soul…
{I don’t remember the next two lines of the verse}
Chorus:
Sing the song that only you can sing,
Sing it out loud and strong,
The words that you were born to,
With the voice that has been silent for too long.
Ironically, I wrote those words for a friend who was struggling not to give up on his music and wondering if he still had any songs left inside. But, I might as well have been speaking to myself from 25 years ago. I got to wondering what else my younger self would have to say to me, and what today’s me would say to that twenty-three year old…
She’d probably walk through the door and once she got over the shock of seeing what time has done to her figure and her face, she’d look at me sitting at my table having leftover pizza for breakfast (Hey, it’s brunch. I got up late. Musician’s hours.) and say something like…
Younger Self: “Uh. Shouldn’t you be eating bran flakes or something healthy?”
Older Self: [Folding hands and smiling benignly] “You have not yet studied the venerable art of Tong Long Chu Gar, Grasshopper. Hush your mouth.”
A stand-off, but I know how easily she can be distracted. The library and the instruments will be too much for her. My thousand square feet of mobile home is a true embarrassment of riches to a struggling musician, the sum total of whose possessions are a lime-green 1966 Dodge Dart (a true tank of a car), a guitar, her clothes, her grandmother’s antique bottle collection, a single bookcase full of books, and a tackle box of art supplies, and who draws and paints at a borrowed drafting table.
YS: “Cool. Look at all the books…Oh wow, a harp! And a cut-away, acoustic-electric guitar!”
OS: “Look in the cases along the wall…”
YS: “You play all these?”
OS: “Not very well. Only the harp and the guitar are worth listening to. My fiddling is atrocious.”
She’s practically squealing in delight at the contents of the cases – a purple, five-string electric violin; a concertina; a mandolin; bagpipes; and best of all, a flamenco guitar. Uh oh, she’s pulled out the flamenco guitar. She can play rings around me, but she doesn’t know that yet. She’s a damned good classical player, but she has no idea how her music will slip away for years and I’m not about to tell her. At this stage of her life, she needs all the hope she can get. I play my trump card.
OS: “Here, let me show you something. I’ve been taking flamenco guitar lessons and I’ll teach you a really great rasgueado.”
YS: “C won’t show me any.”
OS: “I know. You may find this hard to believe, but C is not the only guitar teacher in the world. Just remember, someday you learn to play flamenco, and from a teacher who laughs when he plays.”
Instant attention and absolute focus. We pass the guitar back and forth…
OS: “This is ‘tapao.’ Damp the strings with your left hand and do rhythmic strumming…like this. That’s it. Good! Very good. Now, here’s the rasgueo: Thumb up, m and a fingers down, thumb stroke down. Emphasize the thumb up-stroke, that’s the accent. It’s a triplet, but when you get it up to speed it will be a continuous roll.”
She’s scary with how fast she picks up the strum. She keeps at it while I wonder what else to say to her. She’s right in the middle of the worst of it all. The rough times still ahead, she’ll find out about those soon enough. There isn’t anything I can say that will change that, and in looking back, every mistake she makes is an honest one, an honorable and heart-felt one. No regrets there. I don’t even have any warnings or cautions for her. The stubborness, the smart-ass humor, the impertinent questions, those help her survive and keep her spirit alive.
I have to make her take a break from the guitar. She adores Elmo and thinks I live in the coolest place on Earth. She is especially happy when she finds out that Mom and Dad live just down the road. She thinks our brother is crazy to live in Pennsylvania, but then he always did have to do things his own way. (She ought to know.)
She asks a lot of questions on our walk over to the lake. Things like, “Don’t you have any kids?” and “How come you’re single, don’t you at least have a boyfriend?” No, and no, not at the moment anyway. More for her to find out about as she goes along. Instead, I tell her tales of close calls, river trips and skydiving, fires fought and ambulance runs out on the res. She thinks that’s cool and is looking forward to it. I don’t tell her that learning how to manage those adrenaline surges was a big part of curing the post-traumatic stress disorder she doesn’t even know she has. I can truthfully tell her that, yes, I still played music even when I was an EMT. I almost always had a guitar back at quarters and would often practice between calls.
I had some normal nervousness performing last night; she gets stage-fright to the point of being violently sick. She performs anyway. I remember and have worked through what happened one fateful night long ago; she still has amnesia from it and can’t drive down that road without ending up at an intersection miles away, wondering how she got there. She knows there’s a couple hours of her life missing and it scares her, yet she persists in trying to remember. She will, and she’ll end up stronger for it. She’s smart, she’s resilient, and she won’t let anyone or anything keep her down for long.
We stand on the rocks along the shoreline and I point across the water to where the bald eagles nest and where I’ve seen wild turkeys, where the bear den is, and where the elk cows and calves like to bed down on summer mornings.
YS: “Grandma would have liked this, huh?”
OS: “She sure would have.”
I see her enthusiasm, optimism, and hope, her unbounded curiosity, and realize how they pull her through so much. Even her idealism lives on, tempered somewhat, but I haven’t really changed all that much. I put an arm around her shoulders. I tell her about my writing, and that a song she wrote means an awful lot to me.
OS: “You hang in there, kid. It all works out. And you sure made my day.”
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